The little things

Getting caught in that shuffle again? To be honest it's hard not to... especially this time of year; Made to feel as if you should have a million things to do, and those things aren't necessarily prioritizing YOU...  Though you may always have that neighbour on your town home street lighting up their entire exterior with festive lights and decoes, does that make their existence significant all of a sudden? Why do so many people get caught up in the insignificant? Yet again... another example of short-term gratification, we can all witness during specific times of the year making it far more easier to lose sight of what things and people really matter; and not just at a specific time of the year.

So what is the real-game changer? How are we to continue not getting caught in such a cyclone. You've just finished work and you’d usually head straight to the gym for your daily work out, though with the dreaded Xmas party soon approaching, because at the end of the day it is just a room full of random people chosen by someone else to work along side you... You find an excuse to quickly pop in a store to see if there is a last-minute option out there, and turns out the choices available are far worse than the back up you had hanging in your wardrobe. Somehow your brain took away that significance from what you already had, when really you know you'll be dressed better than anyone there as proven in previous occasions. Though really?... will Millie's outfit from M&S hide her anxiety? Or does Richard's tie with reindeers hide his unhappiness of his failed marriage and still make him the 'funny guy' at work? A big fat NO. Again, people today are so good at masking things with insignificant touches and not really dealing or too afraid to deal with the significant things they've left aside all this time and quite literally shoved them aside because they got caught in the shuffle.  

Back to the game changer of how we cannot be led by those examples; is focusing on the things and people that truly add value to our lives. Think about it for a second; there are three types of people in our lives at this very moment in time; those we can only spend three minutes with and no more (enter Janice from Accounts who is a chronic moan yet still is curious if your life has fallen apart yet...NO Janice we are great thank you! Though maybe invest in a really good vibrator since your husband’s last dose of Viagra failed him with a mild heart-attack he's off the pills now, too bad you let him sap away ...because you were to busy prioritizing drinks every evening at the local pub of Karenhood). Then we have those we can only spend three hours with; and those where you’d happily spend unlimited time with.

Now is the time to sieve through the list of people you believe ADD more value and not take away value, why would you hold on to the whining Nancies out there? Not to say that it isn't nice being able to be supportive to someone who has your back in the same way and sit in that pool of mud when you go through a hard time, though in those situations we fully well know those ‘certain’ people can anchor us down and if they are truly worth having; they'd be able to ease the part where you finally can say it was your responsibility for feeling the way you're feeling and only you can take yourself out of that burning hell of a place in your HEAD. Our brains are wired to focus on the negative, without having to go into too deep biological facts for this reaction, our cavewoman brains aren't as different to those of our human ancestorial family line when the recourses were limited to keep the kids 'safe' hence especially as women we run pretty much on being fully 'alert' all the darn time. (Don't forget to breathe this one out). Today owning less recourses has been praised with small objects saving us time and energy and as a result our emotions and wellbeing pay sacrifice to them, with people becoming the product, in better terms; manipulated by the machine that they use; full of unlimited cognitive waste and this in turn takes a turn on their health in general. Again, if it isn't adding value why place so much significance to it.

Yes significance might seem like THE goal though that's just another way of saying: yes have this winning lottery ticket you're now a millionaire you're finally significant, will that make you stand out of the crowd'? or will it just make your bank balance a little prettier... Hence mastering the little things first matter and lead the way to mastering the big things as a result from the quality of your actions. How can we obtain the ability to better and add quality to our actions? Now that you've sieved through your peoples list, you can also start decluttering on things that your brain tries to rally you into, if body feels sore brain says you're sore, brain also says now that you're sore yay lets eat in. Next day your bloated as a house and feel the fatigue and no energy drink is going to kick it. Exactly another example of the escalation of little choices and unfortunately ZERO results. Yes, the odd 'rest' day is good though our bodies as human species aren't made to stay at a desk all day followed by the sitting journey home and finally that ‘hour’ that turns into four watching fave series...

At the end of the day you will only be able to feel and create any significance if you truly invest in the skills and right actions that will gradually stack up to what you truly believe you can become. On that note who knows, maybe even along the way your direction may change and thanks to those little actions along the way you'll acknowledge that destination of Self you had always dreamt of, is only when you arrive there. The final destination to anything you set your sights on (relationship, career, life); you will only and truly know until you actually get there.

For a little glam in closing and your apartment is now spotless to the T after all that decluttering, hot chocolate feels like a finesse to enjoy as the last final touch of blissfully taking in all that cleanliness. We’ve found the perfect duo to really make that hot chocolate stand out, plus up-skilling our grand dessert mastery with this amazing silicone bakeware, just add a stroke of dark melted chocolate and et voila, a perfect semi-circle to nest those marshmallow toppings and watch it melt away in the glorious sunflower cup set.

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