Masculine vs. Feminine Obsession

There's been a growing trend among certain men who seem fixated on the concept of "masculine" and "feminine" energy. You could even say they know more about this stuff than a so called ‘relationship coach’, pluse speaking of relationship coaches these days... we all know btw is a complete hoax as most of them are still very single and have nothing else to do but to involve themselves in other peoples’ relationships because they don't have one of their own.

What is it about this concept that appeals so deeply to them? Why are they so invested in proving the differences, and is it truly confidence driving them, or something else entirely?

For some, this obsession is framed as an ideology, a belief that men and women have inherently different roles to play in society and relationships. These men often idolize figures who espouse hyper-masculine ideals, glorifying the strong, stoic provider role while casting femininity in a purely submissive, supportive light. 

But, when you peel back the layers, it's hard to ignore the undercurrent of insecurity beneath the surface. The relentless need to assert one's masculinity, to continuously proclaim the differences between the sexes, feels more like a defence mechanism than a genuine belief. Could it be that some men feel their identity is being threatened, and thus, cling to these ideologies for a sense of control?

At its core, the obsession with masculine versus feminine energy may be less about understanding true gender differences and more about confronting a deeper sense of inferiority.

In a world where traditional roles are becoming less relevant, it's easier to try and control the narrative than to evolve with it. One reader had a similar experience on a date where she had engaged in a heated conversation about masculinity and femininity, find out if he was marriage material in this exclusive story:

"The gym was packed that evening, but I liked it that way. Something about the focused faces, it always energized me. As I wiped the sweat from my brow, I caught a glimpse of him; tall, dark hair, and the kind of build that made you wonder if he practically lived here. His eyes caught mine, and for a moment, I felt that strange, electric pull.

I wasn’t looking for anything serious. God knows I had enough on my plate. But when he sauntered over between sets and struck up a conversation about my form, I wasn’t exactly going to shut him down. He was confident; maybe a little too confident; but there was something about his smirk that kept me intrigued.

"How about dinner?" he asked casually, his eyes glinting under the fluorescent lights. I hesitated for a beat, but then shrugged. Why not?

Later that evening, he arrived at the restaurant dressed in a black t-shirt that hugged his muscular frame, ripped jeans, and white sneakers. It wasn’t exactly my idea of sophistication, but it worked for him. Over wine and appetizers, he immediately launched into his favourite topic; masculine versus feminine energy.

"You know, men are naturally dominant. We’re the hunters, the providers," he said, taking a sip of his drink. "Women, on the other hand, they need to embrace their nurturing side. It’s how we’re wired. That’s why so many women are miserable today; they’re fighting against nature."

I raised an eyebrow, intrigued but also slightly irritated. "And where does that leave us, exactly?" He flashed a charming smile. "You’ve heard of [public figure], right? He gets it. Society’s too soft these days, all this talk of equality. Most women don’t even want that; they want a man who knows how to lead."

The conversation was teetering on the edge of full-blown arrogance, but I wasn’t ready to leave just yet. There was something fascinating about watching him spout his beliefs, as if he’d rehearsed them in front of a mirror. He was handsome, sure, but the more he talked, the more I realized that’s where his appeal ended. As the night wore on, I could tell where this was heading. His eyes lingered on me, but it wasn’t with admiration or interest; it was the look of someone who was after one thing. And maybe, just for tonight, that was fine with me.

Back at my place, we ended up having a shag, in my mind I wasn't sure if he could tell that it's been a while, nevertheless I took advantage of the situation probably because his ego brushed off to mine and I was getting bored of the solo vibrator sessions, his words about dominance and power still echoing in my ears as he pulled me close. It was physical, it was heated, but it was nothing more than that, plus his cock was not as big as his ego, I've seen better; standard really especially after he had told me what sportscar he drove. By the end of it, I already knew; I’d never see him again. He wasn’t looking for anything serious, and neither was I, not with im anyway... 

As he left, handsome or not, he was far too wrapped up in himself to be anything close to boyfriend material. The kind of man who thought he was a prize just for showing up. One-off? Sure. But a future? Never. He was just another guy stuck in his own inflated view of what it meant to be a man."

Men like this often portray themselves as hyper-masculine, spouting off about gender roles and dominance, but the reality is much simpler; and sadder. When a man feels the need to constantly assert his masculinity, it’s not a sign of strength; it’s often a mask for the insecurities they’ve been carrying since childhood. Much like the “daddy issues” stereotype often pinned on women, many men grapple with their own version of this, struggling with feelings of inadequacy because they lacked strong male role models growing up. 

So next time a man is trying too hard to prove he’s a “real man,” remember; it’s not just women who have unresolved childhood issues. These men are often little boys, still figuring out their place in the world, trying to fill a void that was left from the start. The key is recognizing that their bluster isn’t about you; it’s about them.

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